Monday, April 9, 2012

Old


I ran into an old friend from college today while waiting on the train platform and I realized it had been almost eight years since I had seen him. We chatted about his new baby girl born in October, how they like the neighborhood since they moved here late last summer, our favorite coffee shops in the area and how we’ve been in the neighborhood since 2007. He was shocked to learn that Chloe was our second and that we’ve been in our house for almost five years. It became obvious, quickly, that time was rushing by and we had been out of touch for a while.

What I noticed even more than the lack of familiarity were the small lines forming around his eyes, the specks of gray touching his temples. The beginning signs of aging, growing older, most likely wiser. Coming away from our brief encounter I was surprised to find myself confused…wasn’t he just 22? Wasn’t I? When did we stop talking about last weekend’s adventures in the urban jungle and start talking about which restaurants allowed strollers? About how family-friendly our neighborhood is and how that coffee place has really great crepes? About how much we love our little girls?

Somewhere I have a picture of him and me, with a couple other friends, holding paint brushes and laughing because we had just painted their room in the fraternity house. I can see the photo in my mind’s eye and we look so…childish. Now we’re grown up, mostly, and it took me by surprise. I’m sure he noticed the lines around my eyes and the weariness that comes from sleepless nights holding the baby. I wonder if he thought the same thing…when did we get so old?

7 comments:

Jessica said...

Gah! You're making me tear up, because, yes, I AM old. It seems once you have kids, time just disappears.

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

Blogged about the very same thing last week. I think I'm now entitled to say OIY! for more than one reason!

Erica said...

Oh my I feel you. Have you even seen college kids lately? They look like babies!

A'Dell said...

I read this last night with children circling my ankles and YESSSSSSSS. There is NOTHING like seeing someone from a long time ago to make me realize how much distance my life has covered in just the past few years.

Lately I'm looking at greys, considering wrinkle eye cream and all kinds of "mid thirties" beauty crap. Remember in the magazines when they'd say what skin care routine to follow, divided out by decade? And for girls in their 20's all it said was to wear sunscreen and wash your face? But in the 30's there was a laundry list of products and things to watch out for?

I AM THERE! I AM FIRMLY IN THE THIRTIES BRACKET.

Sighhhhhh.

bessieviola said...

Oh my, yes. I have been feeling this so much lately. Probably because I'm planning a high school reunion... time really flies. I still think I'm 16 in my head, how in the world did I get here??

Michelle said...

I'm going to a reunion at my college this weekend and I am sure to feel very, very old. It's been 10 years since I graduated. I remember feeling very grown up then. Now I have the urge to slap every college student upside the head.

k said...

I see how less peppy my lady body is and it bums me out.